It’s easy to feel grateful for the easy part of sex. Think of oxytocin, the wonderful “bonding chemical” that brings an orgasmic flood of warmth and gratitude. Blending attachment and sexual excitement–what could be better? Yes, I’m grateful for that!
And I’m also grateful for another gift that sexuality offers. Choosing to be sexual–alone or together–makes you go to a different territory for awhile. You get out of your head, pay more attention to physical sensations. If you have a partner, you pay more attention to her, too. And you get to play around in your imagination, tapping into erotic images, memories, fantasies. The intention to be sexual takes us into different spaces that are pleasurable, relaxing, and intimate. I’m grateful that sexuality can motivate us to venture into this territory.